It is not always plain and simple when your marriage is headed towards divorce. Sometimes you don't access the situation properly and you think that you (and your spouse) want to move forward with the marriage, regardless of any issues that you may have.
What Are the Signs?
Here are 5 Signs that your marriage is headed for a divorce so that you can identify the signs (and get prepared) as soon as possible.
- You and your spouse fight about the same issues over and over again. Neither of you
budgesor shows respect for the other person’s point of view. The argument always ends in the same way with both of you still angry and with no resolution in sight. You question whether you should even continue in the relationship at the conclusion of every argument.
- You and your spouse have stopped spending time together. Soon, other life issues take precedence over your relationship, like work, the kids, hobbies, hanging out with your friends, etc. Now that you've stopped spending time together, you and your spouse begin to lose your emotional connection.
- Your spouse is consistently and rudely critical of everything you do or say. You start to feel like (in your spouse's eyes) you can't do anything right or like you have to "walk on eggshells" around your spouse just to avoid confrontation. Constant degrading and emotionally abusive negative comments erode away your self-esteem.
- Your sex-life is suffering. There is no intimacy and no real physical attraction anymore. If there is physical attraction, neither of you act on it and initiate intimacy.
- You or your spouse (or both) have had an affair or are tempted to have one. Oftentimes, this shatters any trust that you had. Although some marriages survive, most marriages where infidelity is involved end in the divorce court.
Although it is almost impossible to obtain accurate figures, researchers estimate that between 40 and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. Approximately 60 percent of second marriages do not last. Of course, married couples do not go to bed one night happy and wake up the next morning wanting a divorce. Problems develop slowly and fester over time.
If you are experiencing some of these or other difficulties within your marriage, now may be the time to contact an experienced divorce attorney who can explain to you what to expect and help you through the legal maze of the divorce process and family law court.