The words “I want a divorce” aren’t always said out loud. We’ve seen many cases in which one spouse believes that the marriage is over while the other thinks the marriage can be fixed and needs work. Divorce is emotionally challenging enough when you know it is coming. Don’t get caught off guard; if you see the following in your marriage, you may be headed for a divorce.
What Are the Signs?
If you know what to look for, you can prepare yourself emotionally, strategically, and financially. Five signs that your marriage may be heading for a divorce are:
- You and your spouse fight about the same issues over and over again. Neither of you budges or shows respect for the other person’s point of view. The argument always seems to end in the same way, with both of you still angry and no resolution in sight. After every argument, you question whether the relationship is even worth all of this pain and frustration.
- You and your spouse no longer spend time together. Soon, other life issues (e.g., work, your kids, hobbies, and friends) take precedence over your relationship. Now that you are spending more time apart, you and your spouse begin to lose your emotional connection.
- Your spouse is consistently and rude and critical of everything you do or say. You start to feel as if you can’t do anything right in your spouse’s eyes, or you must walk on eggshells around them to avoid confrontation. Constant degrading and emotionally abusive negative comments erode away your self-esteem.
- Your sex life is suffering. There is no intimacy, and not much physical attraction remains. If there is physical attraction, neither of you act on it and initiate intimacy.
- You or your spouse (or both) have either had an affair or are tempted to have one. Extramarital relationships often shatter any trust you two may have had. Some marriages can survive this breach of trust, but most cannot move past the infidelity and end.
Of course, married couples do not go to bed one night happy and wake up the next morning wanting a divorce. Problems develop slowly and fester over time. If your marriage is worth saving, save it. If it isn’t and you are experiencing some of these difficulties within your marriage, now may be the time to contact an experienced divorce attorney.