Our team is experienced in dealing with substance abuse issues and the impact these issues may have on the entire family system. We can guide you on what legal steps should be taken in a crisis, as well as what a long-term plan may look like for your family and your peace of mind. Unfortunately, no one can force an addict to accept help, but we can provide support to those impacted.
There are many reasons people find themselves in a family law matter, but unfortunately, such issues are frequently due to an impairment of one of the parties. Regardless of whether the impairment is from an untreated mental health issue or substance abuse, the impact on the family is the same—chaos, confusion, and fear.
People living in these situations are often surprised to realize things have gotten as bad as they have, and many more are embarrassed to ask for help. We are experienced in providing support and legal guidance in these types of cases. If you think you are experiencing these issues with your partner or co-parent, there are steps you can take to protect yourself, your children, and your future.
Substance abuse is one of the most common causes of family destruction, marital unhappiness, and problems in every other area of the impaired person’s life. A person with a severe chemical dependency is rarely able to function effectively in a marriage or as a parent. They are unable to prioritize anything above their addiction, including their children, marriage, job, or finances.
When faced with someone who has an addiction, it’s vital to have healthy boundaries, an understanding of what you’re up against, and a plan of action. Sometimes, people with substance abuse issues don’t present as impaired when they are under the influence, so you must educate yourself about the tools and resources available.
Regardless of whether an addiction surfaces before or during a case, the addiction will significantly impact your case. It only takes one conviction—even one that occurred many years before the legal battle—to raise a red flag about one’s ability to provide a safe environment for their kids or to act responsibly.
In custody cases, concern about substance abuse is heightened, and according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, “more than 10 percent of U.S. children live with a parent with alcohol problems.” Once someone alleges alcohol or drug abuse, it is up to the judge to determine what possession, decision making, and safety protocols are appropriate. Parents with substance abuse issues are generally not given unrestricted access to their children unless they can show that they are in an ongoing recovery program, they’re monitored and/or frequently tested, and access is appropriate and in the best interest of the children. Often, mental health professionals will also assist in facilitating or assessing the relationships in the family.
If you are suffering from a drug or alcohol dependency issue and are in need of legal support, we can help. You may be afraid to reach out and ask for assistance, and you may feel alone in your struggle, but we have helped many people in your position. The stigma regarding needing help has been lifted, and courts want to see that parents are actively seeking the help they need. There are myriad assessments, treatments, and ongoing monitoring options for individuals and families that we can recommend based on your family’s situation.
Being arrested for driving while intoxicated (DWI) may reflect poorly on one’s ability to act in the best interests of their children, act responsibly, or provide a safe environment. Under Texas law, parents are encouraged to share the responsibilities and pleasures of parenthood; this includes providing a safe and stable environment for the children.
If DWI charges are pending, the conviction was recent, or if a parent has more than one conviction, this could negatively impact that parent’s credibility and the outcome of their case. Courts strongly consider the impact of a parent’s impairment when making decisions for children. The parent without a DWI may request Sole Managing Conservatorship on the basis that the parent with the DWI history cannot provide a safe or stable environment for the children and is, therefore, unable to act in the best interests of the children. If substance abuse and the associated consequences of substance abuse factor in your case, you should consult with an attorney experienced in this sensitive area of family law.
Inexperienced attorneys may focus solely on substance abuse allegations when developing a legal plan and ignore other factors the court will consider when determining what is in the best interest of the children, leaving you vulnerable to countermeasures by opposing counsel. Protect your family. The attorneys at Walters Gilbreath, PLLC are skilled in finding the weaknesses your case may have so they’re not used against you.
You may wonder if your medical records will be relevant if you go through a divorce or child custody case. Many people assume that HIPAA and doctor-patient privilege protect all mental health and physical health records from disclosure. However, there are specific instances in which medical and mental health information is relevant and can be disclosed—there are also instances in which the opposite is true. There are various ways this information can be obtained in a divorce or custody case, and there are ways to advocate for you while protecting your privacy.
If you are worried about something in your medical or mental health history and the impact it may have on your case, you should discuss your history with an attorney to determine the best way to handle your situation.
If you are seeking information about your spouse or your child’s parent, it is important to work with an attorney skilled not only in obtaining the records necessary but also in ensuring the information is appropriately collected and can be used in any hearings or trials.
More often than not, cases involving high-conflict litigation typically have one parent with a personality disorder or other mental health impairment. Three of the most common disorders we encounter are narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and anxiety.
Finding relief from these relationships can be one of the most emotionally challenging (and sometimes even dangerous) processes you go through, and we will be with you every step of the way.
Some divorces or custody cases begin because one party believes the other is suffering from a mental health issue. Many more discover the existence of an issue during litigation. Sometimes a spouse will know something is wrong, but won’t know what. Other times, they may know of a diagnosis or have information from a marriage therapist that gives them some insight into what they are experiencing. Either way, not knowing where to turn and what to expect in your case can feel overwhelming. Clients often describe living or co-parenting with someone who has a mental health diagnosis as living in a constant state of “walking on eggshells.” Many more worry no one will believe their story or that—because the other spouse can present as charming and likable—the dangerous spouse will be able to effectively lie to the court, psychological evaluators, and mental health providers.
If you know or believe your spouse or co-parent is suffering from a mental health disorder, it’s essential to address your concerns with the appropriate professionals to determine how this impairment impacts that parent’s ability to parent.
Someone with a narcissistic personality disorder diagnosis likely has characteristics that can negatively impact families and children. According to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-V-TR), the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder includes a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. These criteria typically show up by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by the presence of at least five of the following nine criteria:
People who have narcissistic personality disorder can have symptoms which vary in severity and can also be accompanied with specific behaviors when faced with criticism.
If you believe your marriage or your children are impacted by someone that exhibits these issues, it is important to seek help not only for the person with the mental health disorder but also for yourself and your children. The stigma regarding mental health has lifted, but to be considered productive and healthy, courts expect parents to obtain the help and treatment they need.
When untreated, borderline personality disorder can turn an otherwise loving home into a frightening or even dangerous situation. According to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-V-TR), the criteria of borderline personality disorder includes a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning in early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
Other traits and signs can also be accompanied in someone has borderline personality disorder.
Even if an individual does not meet five of the criteria warranting a diagnosis, the individual may have traits of borderline personality disorder that negatively impact their relationships, including those with their children or spouse. When left untreated, an otherwise safe and healthy environment can be a dangerous place. Don’t live in fear of how a loved one may react, hire a lawyer and turn your home into a place of comfort rather than chaos.
In a divorce, the spouse with an anxiety disorder may feel like they are unable to control neither their nor their child’s environment. The stress associated with this environmental shift is often enough to exacerbate the underlying disorder. According to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-V-TR), the criteria for an anxiety disorder includes:
Common signs and symptoms of anxiety disorder and the severity of symptoms can vary.
In its more severe forms, anxiety can prevent someone from completing their normal routine and create an unstable home environment. When dealing with anxiety, it is important to treat it before it intensifies and impacts those around you. If you or your spouse experience anxiety, seek help from a mental health professional and find a lawyer that is understanding of your needs and concerns, like the experienced attorneys here at Walters Gilbreath, PLLC.
Dealing with someone who has a mental health impairment is similar to dealing with someone who has a substance abuse issue: it is up to the impaired person to accept help and do the work to improve their situation. You can be supportive, but you can’t change them, and you can’t force them to seek or accept help. What you can do is protect yourself and protect your children. Sometimes, that means going through a difficult divorce for the sake of your family’s health and wellbeing.
Look online, read resources, talk to your therapist, or reach out to those in your support system. If you’re in the unfortunate situation of dealing with a spouse who has a personality disorder, you are not alone. There are resources out there for you. Arm yourself with knowledge and contact us when you’re ready to take the next step.